What Do Your Kids Call The New Step Mom Or Dad?
Recently, a Facebook friend asked a question that evolved into a heated debate and I wanted to ask you what you thought.
Every child has a mom and a dad–that is the way it is. Some parents are more involved and others are less involved in the upbringing of their children. We have already discussed that. But what happens when one (or both) parents re-marry or become seriously involved with a person who is not the child’s biological parent?
What do you call that person? Does it make a difference based on the personality of the “step” parent? Is a step parent any less of a parent?
My friend was having issues with his ex-wife. His new wife (they have been married two years and have a newborn child) is a wonderful parent to his two sons from his prior marriage–perhaps a better parent than their biological mother. His older sons want to call the “new” mom “mom.” But the biological mom threw a fit.
I can see that. I get it. I am the dad–period! That is a title that can never be taken away. I imagine it is the same for moms. I know when my ex-wife remarried, my kids called her then-husband by his first name and had no interest in anything else.
What do you think? Do you have some creative alternative names I can share? How did you handle this?